I was misunderstood yesterday by a good friend. Funny how someone who knows
you very well can sometimes misinterpret things so horribly and then draw
totally erroneous conclusions from their own misunderstanding.
The great thing about good friendships is that they can recover and endure
even the deepest of pot holes that come along. But those sharp words that are
uttered in the heat of argument. That is a difficult thing. The pain cuts deep.
The mind acts as an instant replay system that allows the sharp words to be
played in an endless loop.
It certainly is easy to jump to wrong conclusions. As is easy as it is hard
to KNOW what is going in another person's mind and heart. It's enough to make us
all pause before we get carried away with our emotions.
A valuable lesson relearned.
But I know we should forgive other people in exactly the same way we hope
they will forgive our own verbal excesses. Think, then speak. It really is true
what they about when you ASSume.
Today will be a better day.
8 comments:
(((Doug B)))
Time moves in only one direction. The moving finger, etc. When the hurtful thing is said or done, it cannot be undone. Hence, as you say, think, not only of what you want to say, but what the effect of what you want to say will have on the other person.
That sticks and stones saying - BS. Pretty fragile creatures aren't we?
A good exercise in unpleasant circumstances is the introspection: what is my demand or attachment? Buddha said with no attachment there is no suffering. I can pretty much buy this except for physical suffering.
Sorry if that was preachy. Trying to remind you of something I am sure you already know.
I noticed also no one commented here yesterday. Double whammy. Well, we're at least fixing that!
Make today a good one, Doug.
Hope today was a better day Doug.
@ Zoe,
Thanks, my friend, I needed that.
@ Exrelayman,
Thanks for the perspective. Yes, we are quite fragile creatures, and I'm trying more than ever to remember that when I speak (and write!). And today was an okay day after all. I appreciate you.
@ Sylvia,
My friend and I have started the slow process of healing and rebuilding. I try to remember that often times those sharp words are spoken as much out of hurt and fear as anger. So today did in fact turn out better than yesterday. Thanks for your concern.
Hurts all the more when it's a family member who misunderstands. So hard to know where to start and when to end...
@ Don,
About the only family I have are my mom and younger brother. They cut me lots of slack. luckily for me.
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